(Note: I originally posted this on my Tumblr. I had to share it here too.)
I’m not a fan of your work. That’s just my personal taste in music though. Clearly your music is loved by many. You could probably have a Scrooge McDuck pool of money to swim in if you wanted, which would be so much fun.
Listen, what Tina Fey said to you at the Golden Globes wasn’t really a joke. It was damn good advice— taking time away from dating to get to know yourself and what you want and need in a relationship. Once you’ve accomplished that, it makes it easier for you to separate the men from the boys and only date the ones that are worth your time. She was helping you. You just can’t see it. Or you’re choosing that little jab as another way to continue to make yourself look like a victim. Grow up a little. Gain some perspective.
I can only imagine how much more difficult it is to live and learn in the public eye. You chose this profession though. There are generations of entertainers that have said if you’re going to make it in “the biz,” then you need to develop some thick skin. No matter what you do, not everyone will like it. The sooner you accept that, the easier your life will be. If writing songs about how you feel wronged by some asshole you dated makes you happy, great, just know that not everyone will enjoy your music.
If you want to get out there and date several men, have tons of sex, or whatever it is that you do, then DO IT but OWN IT. Don’t let guys use you in a relationship. Be honest about what you want. If he’s not on board, then don’t date him. Stop playing The Professional Victim. Have you learned nothing through any of your past relationships? Because it seems like you keep making a lot of the same mistakes. Step up and take responsibility for yourself and stop blaming your failed relationships entirely on the guy. Respect yourself and stop being disappointed when he doesn’t live up your expectations (which from my limited vantage point, seem delusional. Fairy tales are fiction for a reason).
Do you even realize the impact of writing about this would have on your fanbase? You could be so great.
Don’t even get me started on the hypocrisy of you quoting Madeleine Albright (via Katie Couric) and then bashing other women in your songs.